An Unexpected Gift
I almost had a job offer. Prior to learning I didn’t receive the offer, I was sure I was getting the job. I was excited for obvious reasons and it was a job I really wanted. I had already begun cultivating ideas and thinking about possible prospects as if already in the new sales position. I felt comfortable with the people and was impressed by the company.
The process took four weeks from beginning until end. I went through one phone screening and two in-person interviews. One with the vice president and the second interview was with one of the owners. The next stage they would make an offer for the position. At that point, I thought my job search was over and my life would change. Unfortunately, in the week prior, a more qualified candidate surfaced and knocked me out of the way.
Although it stung, I was given an unexpected gift at an unexpected time. The hiring vice president called me with the bad news, but he decided to take the time to give me feedback. He explained what happened and that he had planned to hire me. He continued to give me positive feedback on my performance through the process. It was his reassurance that took away some of the disappointment from not getting the job. His gift continues to fuel me on my job search.
He had mentioned possibly hiring two new sales managers during my interview and even though he couldn’t do it right now, he did say things change quickly in his industry. He told me to contact him before I accept a job offer.
I understand that I couldn’t compete with the candidate’s experience in the field and it was the sensible business decision. Instead of feeling completely defeated, by the end of the conversation I felt my confidence returning. It helped to know my instincts were right. I did read the signs correctly.
If I didn’t get the feedback, I’d waste time second-guessing myself and analyzing each interaction. Perhaps even altering my actions in future interviews. Instead, hearing the compliments made me stronger. I was reminded that I’m a valuable candidate even though I didn’t get the job.
Job rejection is hard, but feedback can benefit you. Even negative feedback is a gift. Because of this experience I’m now going to make an effort to ask for feedback.
I read some suggestions from the experts. Here are tips on how to ask for feedback when you don’t get the job:
- Ask for feedback via email. Calling someone puts them in an uncomfortable situation.
- Keep in mind that companies fear lawsuits, so make sure you’re clear and reasonable with your request.
- Any feedback is a gift, so be grateful, listen and make necessary adjustments in your job search.
- When you receive a reply, send a short “thank you” email and don’t try to change his/her opinions with another email.
How to ask why you didn’t get the job by Evil HR Lady via CBSnews.com
Have you received feedback that helped you grow and become better? Please share.
Good luck to us all!